“Too much burden”: Chinese couples react to the three-child policy | China
“ Our parents lived for their children, we live for ourselves ”
Jia Shicong is a 31-year-old educational project manager. She is married to Hu Xuancheng, also 31, an engineer. They have a baby girl who is one one year and seven months. They live in Xi’an, in central China
When they heard the news today, my colleagues joked that unless the government rewards us with a dish and a diploma for every child we give birth to, politics has nothing to do with it. we.
Chinese couples – especially women – are less willing to give birth these days. This is because the pressure is too great in today’s society. As a woman after giving birth, you are unlikely to return to work anytime soon due to child care. The more babies you have, the more you will have to sacrifice in your career.
Plus, when you become a parent, you will have to think – and worry – about raising children in the future. Parents want the best of everything for their children, but the competition in China is far too fierce today.
In short, my generation of Chinese is quite different from that of my parents. My parents’ generation lived for their children, but my generation lives for ourselves.
‘If the government is serious it should improve child care’
Wang Zhenyu is a 33-year-old researcher married to Miao Dong, a 26-year-old freelance writer. They live in Zhuhai, Guangdong Province, and have no children.
I don’t think relaxing the rules is very effective at all. In China nowadays, very few people would like to consider having more than two children. Even among those who plan to have so many children, it is far too expensive for young couples to raise them.
But today’s announcement from the highest level is a signal that the central government is concerned about demographic trends these days. This is a great challenge for our country.
I come from a village in rural China. I was born in 1987. Even though it was still under China’s one-child policy, I had two siblings. My family at the time had paid fines to the authorities, and that was good. My wife was born in a city and she is the only child in her family.
I love kids, but the competition is way too tough in China these days. I have a lot of things to worry about: how to live a better life for my little family and for my family at large.
My wife doesn’t want children. It is because she wants to pursue her own career. It’s too much to raise a child – let alone more than one.
If the government is serious about encouraging more babies, it should improve things like welfare, child care and eradicating discrimination against women in the workplace. On top of that, educational resources are another big issue. They will all be taken into account in the decisions of Chinese couples.
“ When I was growing up as a single child, I hoped for a big family ”
Gloria Ai is a 34-year-old Beijing-based television presenter. She can’t wait to have babies soon.
I am an unmarried child born in 1987 under the old one-child policy. When I was growing up, I had always hoped for a big family. I like to be surrounded by children.
I have been running my own media business for a few years. I understand that because I am financially well off I can afford to have a big family. It is a privilege. I think the new policy will allow me to do that and make me work harder for my children and my family.
More and more successful Chinese women my age are becoming mothers. I also shared tips on improving parenting with my friends recently. “